Tuesday, September 23, 2008

The Friends' Zone Policies

Welcome to The Show! We're always happy to have visitors, even if you're a fan of the visiting team. ;) Everyone is welcome to leave his or her thoughts, opinions, and/or observations in The Friends' Zone (aka "the comments section"), but we do hope that all comments are respectful.

When this blog was started in 2005, the founder moderated all comments. Several months after I took over TSCS, I disabled the moderation in time for the 2007-08 season playoffs. It was the best thing I could have done - fans now come here for conversations and to ask questions and get answers about anything and everything in the NHL, from trying to find tickets to asking why a player has a certain nickname.

For the most part, the First Amendment rules apply to The Friends' Zone. I think it's better when everyone has the freedom to say what he or she wants to say. Occasionally, however, there are some comments that are left by people who are so desperate for attention that they'll say almost anything just to stir the pot. These comments typically fall into one of the following categories:
  1. Calling Sid a diver and/or a whiner: If you choose to slap one of these labels on our title man, you better include conclusive evidence. I'm talking about a video or clear photo of Sid exhibiting either of these behaviors from within the past 6 months. (And don't give me that "Sid always cries to the refs after penalties" as evidence of whining because most captains plead their teams' cases to the refs.) These labels came from a few questionable incidents that happened when Sidney was a rookie at age 18. He has matured a great deal since then - so should you.

  2. Any comment that refers to Sidney as Cindy: It will be deleted. Period. Why? Because it's just stupid. If you want to dis him, come up with an original insult.

  3. Use of the word homer: Unless you're talking about the famous Simpson patriarch, don't. Newsflash - there are 12 year olds who read this blog who don't even talk like that. The "grown up" word is biased. Look it up.

  4. Accusing the author of being biased: Hmmm... this is a Sidney Crosby blog. He plays for the Pittsburgh Penguins. The author (me) was a Penguins fan loooooong before Sidney wore the black and gold sweater. I was a Pens fan before Sid even hit his teen years, so OF COURSE I'M BIASED!!! Get over it. If you want a "fair and balanced" recap, go to NHL.com.

  5. Swear words: Please use vulgarity sparingly. It's not that I'm offended by swearing. On the contrary, those of you who know me from Commentorblog on ThePensblog.com know that occasionally my mouth can be as foul as a sailor's, but Sid's appeal ranges from the very old to the very young. It's the youngsters I'm trying to look out for with this rule. Just please use your judgment and try to keep it PG-13.

  6. Leaving your email and/or phone number in the hopes that Siddo himself will contact you: Do this at your own risk. I do my best to make it perfectly clear that this is NOT an official Sidney Crosby website. (Just read the disclaimer below the banner at the top of the page!) Should you choose to ignore the disclaimer, you can and will open yourself up to being chastised by Friends of The Show both in The Friends' Zone and in your email and/or voicemail.

  7. Use of the word puckbunny when addressing the author or any female Friend of The Show: Everyone knows that puckbunny is a loaded word for female hockey fans. Personally, I'm secure in the knowledge that I love the sport of hockey and probably know more about it than some of the male fans, so I don't give a rat's patootey if someone calls me that. But for some women, the impact of that word is nearly the equivalent of that four letter word that starts with a C and ends with a T. Therefore its use will not be taken lightly, and I won't enforce any of these rules that I'm listing here when the girls decide to come after you for using it in The Friends' Zone. Besides, let's be honest here - it says a lot more about you than it does about any of us if you use that term because you are that threatened by girls who love hockey and may occasionally swoon over some of the players. (The word "overcompensation" immediately comes to mind...)

  8. Mocking, antagonizing, insulting, criticizing, or provoking any other Friend of The Show: Friendly debates are welcomed and encouraged, but nasty comments directed at others WILL NOT be tolerated under any circumstances.

  9. Criticizing the author: I'm not afraid of what you think of me, Sid, or this blog. But make sure your comment follows the aforementioned guidelines and make sure you can handle my response. (Trust me, I'm no shrinking violet.) For the record, constructive criticism and/or correcting me when I'm wrong is fine - I'm woman enough to take it. Actually, I want you guys to point out when I'm mistaken! What I'm talking about with this guideline is leaving a hateful comment to or about me just because you hate my team.
Any comment that violates any of the above policies can and probably will be deleted.

Thanks for stopping by The Show. We hope you'll stick around and chat with us and have some fun. :)

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45 Comments in The Friends' Zone:

Blogger Susan said...

I think your rules are very fair and balanced. If someone does not like them, find another blog! (Although there are not many as good as this one). I'd say, "Go for it!"

September 23, 2008 5:32 PM  
Blogger Ali said...

Personally, I think all of the above mentioned rules/guidelines are very well said, and should be able to be understood by everyone. They're clear -- people shouldn't be able to use "I misunderstood" as an excuse.

The guidelines are great. You covered the most important as well as the most annoying things... (It bugs me the most when I read comments on nhl.com referring to Sid as Cindy -- so immature)

All of that to say -- GREAT JOB! I TOTALLY AGREE! :)

September 23, 2008 5:32 PM  
Blogger pensgirl8711 said...

I agree that the rules are very fair. I think that they definitely get the point across and like Ali basically said it covers the important points.

September 23, 2008 5:43 PM  
Blogger Terri said...

I think those are guidelines cover it all. If people don't like Sidney or the Penguins, why are they visiting the site anyway?

September 23, 2008 6:00 PM  
Anonymous Maria T said...

agree with all of these ladies. jode your blog is amwazing, and we all know that. im glad that you are sticking up for the blog and i completly agree with all of your rules. and yes i still dont understand why people come here just to bash.. it doesnt make sense.

go pens

September 23, 2008 6:03 PM  
Anonymous Maria T said...

**amazing

September 23, 2008 6:03 PM  
Blogger 1wingangel said...

Woot.

I love how you defend us girls and simultaneously give us permission to attack anyone who throws insults around. XD

Go Officer Jodie! *pumps arm*

September 23, 2008 6:15 PM  
Anonymous Alyse said...

Straight and to the point... Pretty sure all the true friends of the show wouldn't be doing these things anyway! Good rules!

September 23, 2008 6:28 PM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

Do you have the ability on here to ban or block people from commenting? If so, there should be a policy outlining that (i.e., first time=warning, second=banned for two weeks, third=banned for life)

You may want to say just a little something about how you will use your own discretion on comments you find offensive....sort of a catch-all for anything you didn't think about.

Other than that, it all looks really good! I will definitely keep mulling and let you know if I think of anything else :)

September 23, 2008 6:42 PM  
Blogger Clare said...

The rules are great, not at all unreasonable. They are direct and should be very easy to comply with. Thank you again for taking comment moderation off.

September 23, 2008 6:55 PM  
Anonymous jan said...

I don't think you could have said it better or more clearly. Can't wait for the season, can't wait for your recaps and can't wait to read the comments on The Friends' Zone!

And to those who are not Pens and Sidney fans who may read or leave comments, I just gotta ask again...
How can ya not LOVE OUR CAPTAIN!:-)

September 23, 2008 7:23 PM  
Anonymous austinlovescrosby said...

Like all the other ladies- Well said Jodie, well said! The guidlines are straight foward and perfect for this site! Thanks for all you do! GO PENS!!!!!!!!!

September 23, 2008 7:54 PM  
Blogger Michelle said...

Everything is well said and I agree about the "puckbunny" label,it really ticks me off!LOL
Great job,as usual!
Michelle in NS

September 23, 2008 8:27 PM  
OpenID equilibrium4 said...

I think this is a great idea, and all of those rules are perfectly reasonable. Couldn't have said anything better myself.

I agree with Stephanie about making sure people understand you will use your own discretion in cases that aren't specifically laid out in the rules, just in case something comes up that you didn't think of beforehand. At least it can be precedent-setting and you can add it to the rules after.

September 23, 2008 8:32 PM  
Blogger Faceoffs and First Downs said...

I never post here but I do read this blog regularly and I have to say I love your rules. It's your blog and you can do what you want and I love that you lay down the rules so well. It does get old when people think they're hilarious by coming here and saying stuff about Sid or the Pens just for the sake of doing it. Says a lot about them. Kudos to you for laying down the law and not dealing with crap like that. Keep up the good work. :)

September 23, 2008 8:35 PM  
Blogger Christine said...

I think the rules are more than fair. Sidney would be so proud...

September 23, 2008 8:47 PM  
Blogger LETS GO PENS said...

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September 23, 2008 8:54 PM  
Blogger LETS GO PENS said...

Hey Jodie!
its keya again. :) i think these rules are absolutely fair and well said. it is ridiculous when adults come on here and act like they're five. grow up is right. why even bother looking at the blog if you're just going to be stupid about it? and 'puckbunny' is a disgusting word. the next person who uses it needs to be punched in the face. thanks for making this a site for Pens fans. we're all bias. :)

September 23, 2008 8:54 PM  
Anonymous Amber said...

Sounds good to me. But whats homering???

September 23, 2008 9:30 PM  
Blogger snickerdoodles said...

I think your rules are fine. They are clear and easily understood by anyone who reads them. As others have said, this is your blog and you have every right to have the Friends Zone a pleasant place to post and read.

September 23, 2008 9:37 PM  
Blogger erin_mckenzie said...

The rules are 100% fair. I always read what was posted in the comments and this season I'm going to post here more often then I did in the past.

September 23, 2008 9:47 PM  
Blogger Allison said...

Hear, hear! Go Snoop!

September 23, 2008 9:49 PM  
Blogger Lauren said...

I like the rules! And I agree with Stephanie about some sort of clause to act as a "catch-all" for anything else that might not have been specifically mentioned

Keep up the great work!

September 23, 2008 9:54 PM  
Blogger mer said...

great rules.
completely reasonable.
thanks for sticking up for us chicks on the puckbunny label and the (occasional) swoon-y-type comments.

boys if you don't get it, consider this: asking us Not to occasionally swoon over cute hockey players is like asking you guys not to ogle female beach volleyball players ;)

September 23, 2008 10:42 PM  
Blogger Jaime said...

LOL, Mer!

Great rules, Jodie. And I also agree with Stephanie about putting a 'catch-all' in there. ;)

September 24, 2008 12:35 AM  
Blogger gilld22 said...

I think your comments are very fair and reasonable.

This is a great blog and want it to stay that way.

Keep up the good work.

September 24, 2008 4:20 AM  
Blogger stephaniec said...

The rules are good, and you should add a catch-all clause, too. I've been sick, but am back to comment with glee!

September 24, 2008 7:59 AM  
Blogger snoopyjode said...

thanks, everyone. i'm relieved no one thinks i'm being too restrictive. i actually don't want to regulate at all - i'm hoping to keep things the way they are around here. the truth is that i'd love more people to start coming around and joining in the conversations, but i also know that opens up the door for a few morons who try to ruin it for everyone, so i'm trying to get ready in case we get one of them here.

two things: i basically use the same reasoning as mer does, except i use ladies' tennis as the sport in question, lol! and i'm with terri - if people don't like sid or the pens, why come here?!

@amber
okay, this is the policy where i thought i might be going a little overboard, but everyone is right - it's my blog and i can ban whatever word i want to, right? anyhoo, a homer is someone who is prejudiced to a fault in favor of the home team. i don't know why, but use of that word is one of my big pet peeves. if i see homer in a comment, i just stop reading it because it annoys me so freaking much.

[rant]
WHY NOT JUST SAY BIASED INSTEAD?!?!?! IT MEANS THE SAME THING AND IT'S A REAL WORD!
[/rant]

September 24, 2008 8:37 AM  
Blogger 71crush said...

I think your rules are fine! One of the things I LOVE about this blog is that my daughter can come here and not read swear words or undeserved insults about Sid. Thanks so much.

September 24, 2008 9:12 AM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

@jodie

Hee hee...I know I've used the word "homer" in the past (always when referring to other team's announcers). At first I thought "hmmmmm....wonder if that's too restrictive..." but I re-read the policy about using "biased" instead. I can do that!

Speaking of restrictive, I am on a Dave Matthews Band message board that I adore. But we are not allowed to bring up or ask questions about the band member's personal lives (wives, girlfriends, kids, etc.). I can understand it to a point, but, c'mon....it's a natural curiosity most of us have toward anyone famous (and we all saw that everyone on here had an opinion on whether Sidney and Miley Cyrus would be good together!)

September 24, 2008 9:17 AM  
Blogger snoopyjode said...

LOL, stephanie - i actually remembered that you did, but i like you too much to say anything. :P

i know it's irrational, but i just loathe that word. it's kind of the same way i hate brett favre (okay now i'm really starting to reveal the crazies here) simply because his name is spelled FAVRE but he pronounces it FARVE. i know he's a phenomenal player, and he seems like a perfectly nice guy, but i just can't make it past his name.

i know - i need help, LOL!

September 24, 2008 9:34 AM  
Blogger Sigma956 said...

I think the rules are very well laid out and easy to understand. They are definitely not unreasonable.

September 24, 2008 9:39 AM  
Anonymous jan said...

@Mer

SO well said! Love it!

September 24, 2008 9:46 AM  
Blogger Susan said...

Jodie, They are great. I'm a blogger as well and you have every right to do this.

The only suggestion I would make, and it's not a big deal, is taking out the reference to the C word in the rules about not using the term Puckbunny. I guess I'm thinking that there are some kids that could figure it out and if you want the blog to be PG-13 it might be a little spicy for them.

Just a thought, I respect your choices.

September 24, 2008 10:03 AM  
Blogger TheNWChica said...

I have nothing to add except WORD!

And the puckbunny thing? I hate that term; and ignorant people use it. I can spot puckbunnies at 50 paces. I am not nor will I ever be a puckbunny.

September 24, 2008 10:12 AM  
Anonymous alyssa said...

Very awesome! I'm actually going on 16 so some (very) set rules make me feel right at home. Thanks sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much!

September 24, 2008 10:17 AM  
Blogger Stagerat said...

"... and courtesy shall be your watchword." Nice, well thought out, and no more than laying out in print what should be expected in any freindly 'biased' conversation. As you said, this is your blog and you can run it any way you da..... ng well please.lol Very well done in my humble, yet all knowing, opinion..

September 24, 2008 11:06 AM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

@ jodie

Hee! I think I could match you point-for-point in a game of irrational pet peeves! I probably really need to chill out more :P

My biggest problem with being called a "puckbunny" is that is hurled as an insult. I have never heard it used as a compliment or cute quirk. It's like calling someone "stupid"....not too many ways you can take that...

September 24, 2008 11:20 AM  
Blogger 44FreeCandy said...

This is a great blog. Thanks.

The rules fit the blog. If you don't like the Pens/Crosby why are you here.

September 24, 2008 3:34 PM  
Blogger yzerman1987 said...

Did anyone else notice that on Sid's bowl he's donating, the number doesn't look like 87?

March 12, 2009 7:42 PM  
Blogger CarlieCurlyQ said...

Ha! Oops! I'm afraid I have used 'homer' before too. Sorry! And you are not alone with random words annoying you! The word pasta drives me nuts, and you will NEVER hear it out of my mouth! Unless I'm ranting about how much I hate it of course! (Sorry if this is too wierd but, the word 'panties' is my all time most hated word! Uh!!!

March 31, 2009 6:30 PM  
Blogger CarlieCurlyQ said...

Also,

@ Jodie

So I'm not alone on the Favre thing?! I just call him (phonetically) : FAVE ER. I refuse to say it the way he THINKS it is.

March 31, 2009 6:34 PM  
Blogger yzerman1987 said...

What an awful game tonight!! I feel so sorry for Sid and Fleury:( I wish someone would tell Malkin to stop taking the stupid penalties!!! Even though Detroit has and probably always will be the team I cheer for, I still would like to see Sid and the boys win it this year; unfortunately I have a bad feeling that it's not going to happen. I'll be crossing my fingers for the boys in black and gold on Tuesday night! Go Pens Go!

June 7, 2009 12:21 AM  
Blogger SidFan said...

Sid led his team to victory! Awesome. Does anyone have an update on his knee injury? I haven't seen anything written about it.

June 14, 2009 8:11 PM  
Blogger Britany said...

i was happy that they won and even mor happy because Hossa lost. Haha Hossa

June 24, 2009 8:31 PM  



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